5 Lessons I’m Learning during some Major, Major Yard Reconstruction

Four years ago, the last week of July, 2013, our family moved to a beautiful home on 2 acres of land.  We were looking to escape some of the hustle bustle of the subdivision neighborhood lifestyle, and hoping to enjoy a more peaceful life with a fruitful garden and backyard chickens.

“Before”

But, as is true in most things of life, nothing is without trials.  You can read more about our experience moving in my blog post titled “A Thorn in the Flesh” here.

Over the past four years, we have battled with our yard in a myriad of ways – fighting poison ivy, ticks, yellow jackets, mice, more poison ivy, more yellow jackets, more ticks, and more mice.  This summer we finally decided that our best bet was to do a major overhaul of the backyard.  This overhaul included hiring a landscaper to remove over 2 dozen trees, along with all the weeds and shrubbery, and lay thick green sod (still a work in progress), thereby turning our backyard from a “wilderness” into a “manicured lawn with abundant large trees.”

So, I was blown away when our women’s Sunday school class this morning’s lesson was from an essay by A.W. Tozer titled “The Hunger of the Wilderness!”  Here are a few lessons I’m learning through this yard reconstruction that were reinforced during our morning discussion:

  1. That beautiful backyard that we just spent thousands of dollars to create will naturally go right back into a wild forest if we don’t diligently keep back the weeds and bramble. In the same way, our hearts and minds can be drawn back to the world if we do not keep focused on the Lord.
  2. Weeds don’t need to be watered and fertilized, but lush, green grass does. If you want your backyard to look like a golf course, you have to put in the work.  2 Timothy 2 refers to Christians living like a soldier, an athlete and a farmer.  When I reflect on what these three professions have in common, I think that they all have a prize in mind that they’re working toward and they all have to remain diligent and steadfast in their work.  Are we fixing our eyes our Jesus with eternity in view?  Is He our greatest prize?  Are we growing weary of well doing?
  3. We have to dig out the weeds from the roots, rather than just using a “weed whacker” to chop the tops off of them. In getting bids on the backyard, I kept saying that I needed the poison ivy removed, not just chopped up and spread all over the yard!  Too often we are just treating the symptoms of our sin, rather than going after the roots.  Are we just “pruning our sin,” grooming it to look prettier on the outside, without ever getting to the true heart of the problem?
  4. With time, we can grow so accustomed to our weeds, that they start to look normal, maybe even pretty. When we first saw our newly transformed yard, we actually missed all the greenery of the weeds.  How often are our hearts like that?  We choose the comfort of our sin over the beauty of righteousness.

    “After”
  5. It can take days or weeks or even months and years of neglect for the weeds to come to the surface. If we’re not keeping our hearts with all diligence (Proverbs 4:23), and abiding in the living vine of Christ (John 15), we can wake up one day shocked at sins that we thought we’d conquered years before.  When that sin keeps returning, rather than losing heart, we can be thankful that it keeps us on our knees, that in our weakness we are forced to depend all the more deeply on Christ, our advocate and redeemer … which reminds me again of that “thorn in my flesh” that I originally wrote about 4 years ago.

13 Life Lessons I’m Learning from the Beach

  1. Every minute counts. Grab the opportunity when it comes, it might not come back. 
    Sometimes I would see a beautiful shell wash up on shore and think, “I’ll get that in a minute,” but by the time I got around to picking it up, it was too late.  I’d missed my opportunity.  Don’t assume you can “do it later.”  Later might never come.
  2. My kids want me to be WITH them, not just watch them.
    Isn’t that so much like our God? He wants us to be with Him, to live in fellowship and relationship with Him, rather than just knowing about Him.
  3. But, sometimes it’s ok to watch. We don’t always have to be the ones in the water.
    Over the years, God has grown my faith both in the doing and in the watching.  God’s hand has been visible to me both while I’m at work and while I’m standing on the sidelines.  I am thankful for both.  Sometimes my kids just want me to watch them and cheer them on from my comfy chair in the sand.
  4. When we’re called, we’ve got to get in the water, even if it’s scary.
    This reminds me of 1 Peter 3:6 where we are admonished to “do good” and “not fear anything that is frightening.”  The unknowns of the water terrify me.  There might be sharks, jellyfish and flesh-eating bacteria living in that water.  And yet, there’s also a beautiful starfish lying just out of reach and fun memories with my kids to be found in that same water.  God frequently is calling me to “get out of the boat” to do something that grows my faith and shows off His power.  If I don’t follow His calling, I’ll miss out on the unknown joys awaiting me.  This reminds me of the “Oceans” song.
  5. The battle doesn’t end just because we wade out into the water.
    As mentioned in lesson #3, it’s easier for me to stay on the beach than to make the jump into the water. I wish that once that battle to get the water was won, that the war was over.  That is not the case.  Getting in the water, begins the new battle of staying in the water.  How often has God beckoned me to get in the ocean, only for me to retreat back to the safe shore?
    This reminds me of a talk that Priscilla Shirer gave titled “Don’t Abandon Your Boat.”  I’d encourage you to be blessed to listen to it for yourself.
  6. Life is safer in groups.
    When I see people out in the deep water all by themselves, I wonder about their sanity. When God calls me to go out into that water, He is going to send people to be by my side for my encouragement and protection.  I’m thankful for the safety provided through the covering of my husband and the joy of my children.
  7. Doing hard things gets easier with practice.
    The first time I went out into the water, I was terrified, but I went. I trusted and I went.  The fear was less the second time I went out and the third time I was able to enjoy the experience more because the terror had become less.  This is life.  Sometimes we have to force ourselves to take that first step and trust that the Lord will help us keep going.
  8. Sometimes we mess up someone else’s plans without even meaning to.
    While working on making a sand castle, I saw a nice big pile of unattended sand and started scooping it up into my bucket. A few minutes later, a sweet young mom humbly asked that I leave it there as her son had worked to make that ramp.  I apologized sincerely and thought to myself, “How often have I thought someone else was ruining my plans on purpose?”  I wondered if he thought I was intentionally tearing down his ramp, when I was simply unaware of his plans.  Lord, help me to be humble like that gentle mama and ask kindly for someone to go find their sand somewhere else.
  9. There’s an awful lot of sun-worshippers out there.
    I am amazed at how many people are tanned, and I mean tanned from head to toe. How did this happen?  This had obviously taken countless hours of near-naked time spent in the sun.  Why?  This was clearly more than a week’s vacation at the beach or many hours spent gardening or watching their child play baseball.  This was a lifestyle of sun-worship.  Why?   What is our purpose in life?  Can that purpose be fulfilled through innumerable days and weeks of nothing more than laying on a beach or in a tanning bed?  Food for thought.
  10. You can work on something for hours and one big wave can wipe it all out.
    Enough said.
  11. Our ways are not necessarily His ways, and our plans are not necessarily our friend’s plans.
    When I began working on that sandcastle of mine, my husband jumped in to help. Within minutes, he was creating a sandcastle that far surpassed anything I could have built.  If I had clung to the measly plans that I had made and the paltry vision that was in my mind, if I had argued with him about what that sandcastle was “supposed to look like,” I would have missed out on the grand project that he had in store for me.
  12. When we’re afraid of something, it can seem real, even when it’s not.
    Last summer at a beach just a few miles up the way from here, my daughter Noelle was stung twice by a jelly fish. This year at the beach, even though we have not seen one single jellyfish, Daniel has repeatedly removed himself from the water to ask his dad or I if there was a mark on him because he kept feeling like he’d been stung.  Or for me, because of my ridiculous allergy to poison ivy, I am frequently overwhelmed by fear when I feel the slightest itch or see any three-leaved green thing.
    Shortly after returning home, a friend emailed me about a struggle she’s been going through and she shared this acronym with me: FEAR = False Evidence Appearing Real.  Wow!  How timely and true.
  13. God answers prayers, but we need to keep our eyes open for those answers.
    As I was sitting on the beach, watching the endless waves, I was prompted by the Spirit to ask God to send a dolphin for me to see.  So, I prayed.  And I sat with my hand shading my eyes scanning the horizon.  Sure enough, minutes later, I saw several large white splashes of water with something cresting over the waves.  This was a gift to me.  I knew that if I hadn’t asked, I wouldn’t have received this gift.  And I knew that if I hadn’t watched, I would’ve missed the answer.  Once again, I’m reminded that we need to both ask and watch.  My faith was grown even in this little answered prayer.
    God sees me.  He knows me.  Which reminds me of a cheesy little song I learned when I first became a Christ-follower.

What life lessons has the Lord been teaching you, whether on the beach or doing the mundane daily work of life?

For Him and through Him and in Him,

TWIG

More Than a Homeschool Mom in 3 minutes

God has indeed called me to homeschool and it is indeed an enormous blessing in my life, and yet, is there where my “identity” comes from?

Click here to hear my thoughts in 3 minutes on what it means to be “More Than a Homeschool Mom.”

Feel free to share!  Please link back here.

To God be the glory,

TWIG

 

More Than a Homeschool Mom 2017 – Audio

This is the audio from the “More Than a Homeschool Mom” talk that I was honored to share at the MHEA conference in Starkville earlier this month.  May God receive all the glory.  You are welcome to share as you’re led, but please link back here.

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God is Real: Eyewitness Testimony of a Former Atheist – YouTube video

This is my testimony of coming to Christ out of atheism, and how God continued to show Himself real to me in the coming years.

This audio, along with the slides, was shared at the MHEA conference in Starkville MS in May, 2017.

Feel free to share, but please link back here.

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God is REAL: Eyewitness Testimony of a Former Atheist – Audio

This is my story, the story of how God transformed the heart of this confused, outspoken atheist into a born-again follower of Jesus Christ and how He demonstrated His love to me in the years that have followed.

Please share as you like, but link back to here.

By the way, I’ll have a YouTube video with slides coming soon!

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Dear Younger Me – YouTube video with slides

I’ve converted the audio talk from the MHEA conference into a Youtube video with the accompanying slides.

Feel free to share away, but please link back to here.  Much appreciated!

To God be all the glory!

Dear Younger Me – audio

Over the weekend I had the incredible opportunity to share a full-length message based on my “Dear Younger Me” series at the MHEA Conference in Starkville MS.  I pray that others will be encouraged by both my successes and failures as a mom and for God to be glorified over all.

You are welcome to share this link and list of “nuggets” with others, but please do link it back here.

Ten Plus One Nuggets for My Younger Self

By Kim Endraske   www.TeachWhatIsGood.com

Nugget #1: “Trust the Lord”

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.” (Prov 3:5-6)

Nugget #2: “Don’t Be Anxious”

“Let your reasonableness (NASB= gentle spirit) be known to everyone. The Lord is at hand; Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. (Philippians 4:5-6)

Nugget #3: “Hide God’s Word in Your Heart”

“I have stored up your word in my heart, that I might not sin against you.” (Ps 119:11)

Nugget #4: “Respect Your Husband”

“Let the wife see that she respects her husband.” (Ephesians 5:33)

Nugget #5: “Number Your Days”

“So teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom.”  (Psalm 90:12)

Nugget #6: “Discipline Yourself”

“Discipline yourself for the purpose of godliness, for bodily discipline is only of little profit, but godliness is profitable for all things, since it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come.” (1 Timothy 4:7b-8 NASB)

Nugget #7: “Brothers and Sisters Really Can be Best Friends”

“A brother is born for adversity.”  (Proverbs 17:17)

Nugget #8: “They’re Imitating You”

“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.  Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.  Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children.” (Ephesians 4:31-5:1)

Nugget #9: “Don’t Give Up”

“And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.”  (Galatians 6:9)

Nugget #10: “Refuse to Discipline in Anger”

“Do you presume on the riches of his kindness and forbearance and patience, not knowing that God’s kindness is meant to lead you to repentance?”  (Romans 2:4)

Nugget #11: “Grace and More Grace”  

“And you were dead in the trespasses and sins in which you once walked, following the course of this world, following the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that is now at work in the sons of disobedience– among whom we all once lived in the passions of our flesh, carrying out the desires of the body and the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, like the rest of mankind. 

But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses made us alive together with Christ–by grace you have been saved— and raised us up with him and seated us with him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus, so that in the coming ages He might show the immeasurable riches of his grace in kindness toward us in Christ Jesus. 

For by grace you have been saved through faith.  And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.   For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.”   (Ephesians 2:1-10)

God “saved us and called us to a holy calling, not because of our works but because of his own purpose and grace, which he gave us in Christ Jesus before the ages began,” (2 Timothy 1:9)

Dear Younger Me – by MercyMe

Maybe you’re like me and you have an incredible deficit in understanding what song lyrics say.  This is something my kids love to tease me about. Too true. I’m often caught singing the wrong words — or not singing at all since I have no idea what is being said.

Well, this is one example of that.  I’ve heard this song a dozen or more times on the radio, but had no idea he was saying “Dear Younger Me.”

For those of you who have been thinking of this song as I’ve been posting this series: WAY TO GO.  For the rest of us, here it is.

One critique: I’m concerned when Christian songs proclaim over the radio “You are holy, you are righteous, you are one of the redeemed,” etc. because not everyone listening has been born again into a saving faith in Jesus Christ.  But, to those of you who have the Holy Spirit dwelling in you, Amen.  I wouldn’t be who I am today if I hadn’t gone down the roads that I have.  Does that mean I should go on sinning that grace may abound?  BY NO MEANS.  So, forget what lies behind and press on to the high calling of Jesus Christ.  Praise Him.

Lyrics:

Dear younger me
Where do I start
If I could tell you everything that I have learned so far
Then you could be
One step ahead
Of all the painful memories still running thru my head
I wonder how much different things would be
Dear younger me,
Dear younger me
I cannot decide
Do I give some speech about how to get the most out of your life
Or do I go deep
And try to change
The choices that you’ll make cuz they’re choices that made me
Even though I love this crazy life
Sometimes I wish it was a smoother ride
Dear younger me, dear younger me
If I knew then what I know now
Condemnation would’ve had no power
My joy my pain would’ve never been my worth
If I knew then what I know now
Would’ve not been hard to figure out
What I would’ve changed if I had heard
Dear younger me
It’s not your fault
You were never meant to carry this beyond the cross
Dear younger me
You are holy
You are righteous
You are one of the redeemed
Set apart a brand new heart
You are free indeed
Every mountain every valley
Thru each heartache you will see
Every moment brings you closer
To who you were meant to be
Songwriters: Barry Graul / Bart Millard / Ben Glover / David Arthur Garcia / Mike Scheuchzer / Nathan Cochran / Robby Shaffer
Dear Younger Me lyrics © Music Services, Inc

Dear Younger Kim (#6), Grace and More Grace

 nick-and-emily-on-tractor-summer-2000This series is in response to the question:

So if you met yourself when your kids were as young as mine (4 and 1), what would you tell her?

If you haven’t read Part One in this series, click here.

Dear Kim,

Take a minute and read this passage out loud.  Savor it.  I hope this one puts a smile on your face and the joy of the Lord in your heart.

“And you were dead in the trespasses and sins in which you once walked, following the course of this world, following the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that is now at work in the sons of disobedience— among whom we all once lived in the passions of our flesh, carrying out the desires of the body and the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, like the rest of mankind.

 But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ–by grace you have been saved— and raised us up with him and seated us with him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus, so that in the coming ages he might show the immeasurable riches of his grace in kindness toward us in Christ Jesus.

For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast. For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” Ephesians 2:1-10

I want so much for you to be walking daily with Jesus, that I’m afraid I’m pushing you too hard.  And when things are hard, you’re be tempted to do it in your own strength.  And the thing is, Kim, it is too hard for you to do it in your own strength.  You’ll only be able to walk this narrow road of faith as you trust in Him and believe in the mercy of God who loves you and gave His own Son for you.

Remind yourself daily that you were saved by grace, through faith, and that none of this is your own doing.  It is not the result of works.  You can’t earn God’s favor.  You will never deserve His love.

It’s the other way around, Kim.  While you were dead in all your sins, while you were a child of wrath, while you were the chief of sinners, God demonstrated His love for us, the immeasurable riches of His grace in kindness toward us, sending His own Son, to die for us that we could be forgiven.  Wow!  This is the good news of the gospel.

It’s so easy to get this mixed up.

Remember that God created you.  Not the other way around.  You are HIS workmanship.  He created you in Jesus for good works, not because of them.  As Paul wrote to Timothy, God “saved us and called us to a holy calling, not because of our works but because of his own purpose and grace, which he gave us in Christ Jesus before the ages began.” (2 Timothy 1:9 ESV)

Before the ages began, Kim.  Before you’d taken one single breath.  Before you’d had the opportunity to do even one good deed, He saved you and called you.  Because of His own purpose and grace.

Now, walk in that grace, by that grace.  Give that grace to others.  Pour out on others the grace and love that has been poured out on you.   Trust Him with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.  He’s got the whole world (that includes you) in His hands.

By His grace,

TWIG

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